Pelvic Pain Resources
I host a weekly takeover for Losti’s Instagram where I answer sex-ed questions and give advice. However, I’ve been noticing each week I’ve been receiving at least one question or concern regarding pelvic pain.
Why does it hurt after I orgasm? Why do I get pain in my stomach after penetration? I’m also asked how to prevent vulva pain, UTI's, yeast infections, pelvic tightness, the list goes on.
Since I’m not a healthcare provider (and I’m answering general advice online), I can’t provide a diagnosis or tell people how to treat medical conditions. I do, however, provide some in-depth and solution-oriented advice for what to do when dealing with pelvic pain from any cause.
As a person with endometriosis, I’m no stranger to the frustrating and often heavy feelings associated with pain in this region, and I’ve tried my fair share of solutions. Here is everything that has helped me:
Pelvic floor physical therapy
If this is not available to you due to location or financial reasons, there are resources online that can provide some relief. Learning pelvic floor grounding, relaxation, and release is a great start.
Smooth, Firm Massagers
Glass toys are great for internal soothing, as you can run them under cool water to chill them (internal ice pack!). Soaking them in warm water also provides an amazing heating pad sensation. Remember to use a lubricant, and only do this if you’re able to (don’t force penetration of any kind if you’re having spasms, infection, or serious nerve pain).
Arnica or Magnesium Roll-Ons or Creams
I love rubbing them on my pelvis, back, and stomach. Make sure to avoid the genitals.
Ohnut
This will definitely protect your cervix from being bumped! If penetration is tolerable but depth is the issue, this can be a lifesaver.
For some, these methods work wonders:
CBD Suppositories or Lube, from brands like Foria or Quim. Not all CBD is made the same, so make sure the brand you choose has quality assurance and solid reviews.
Diet and lifestyle changes, because sometimes pelvic pain can be caused by issues in the gut or bladder, so consult your healthcare provider if this may be the case.
Sex Therapy. Vaginismus and pelvic tensing can often have psychological triggers. If you live in the USA, check out AASECT to find a certified sex therapist near you.
Vibrating rings for a penis (or dildo) act as a bumper and can provide more stimulation to get circulation pumping within the vagina.
Better personal lubricant, like Sliquid or Hydraglide. Look for water-based, hypoallergenic, no fragrance or parabens if you have sensitivity.
Hyaluronic acid and aloe suppositories, from doctor-approved brands like Florealis.
Talk to your partner about changing positions, rhythm, and using products that can prevent worsening pelvic pain after sex. Finding sex furniture (ramps, extra firm pillows), and redefining sex without penetration can be.
